While she smoke, lady Despina used her cigarette to dominate the guy. She told him all the things that were on her mind. She looked like a badass as she smoked and he believed she would do all those things she said. She looked threatening and cold and he was scared shitless of her. When she was done scaring him, she let him go. He had peed on his pants.
Lady Despina wanted to scare this guy because she was sure that it was going to work in her favor. She did not want to spend a lot of time arguing with her slave. All she wanted was to get him scared to the point that he would do anything she asked him to do. And she was able to get to that point after she turned him into a human ashtray.